I’m sure we’ve all heard the old saying ‘Pride is a sin’.
Over the years Gay Pride has become a hugely celebrated holiday in the US.
For those of us who are in hetero appearing relationships this time of year can be ultimately conflicting.
Especially for those of Us who are not ‘out’ to family and friends.
It’s a time when the country is talking about the Gay community a bit more than usual.
For those of us with Bi Invisibility those conversations can be VERY uncomfortable.
I cannot count how many times my husband and I have been around conversations concerning homosexuality and bisexuality where abrasive, homophobic words and thoughts were said.
It’s easy to get fired up and ‘come out’ by ‘accident’ in a heated conversation this time of year.
It’s a time many of Us choose to come out to loved ones around PRIDE.
Many bisexual humans involved in hereto appearing long term relationships don’t feel PRIDE has anything at all to do with Our lives.
I personally wish We had more visibility, more awareness, less stigma, more respect for the fact we do exist.
Despite my husband’s birthday falling on NYC PRIDE every year he has again selflessly decided to walk again in this year’s NYC PRIDE march in solidarity with all the BiHusbands of our City.
For now we will be the faces of you all who are still behind the walls of Bi Invisibility but We invite you all to march with us this and every year.
One of these years we’ll be on vacation somewhere privately celebrating his birthday, that year we hope to see you all representing while we’re away.
So far we’ve yet to break the walls that hide Us because it is you the readers who are crippled by societal stigma and fear, preventing Us from doing so.
You have not emailed us, you have not shown up, shown out or volunteered.
So many of you are still so deeply hidden. 😦
Our cause is not to shine a light on each of you personally but a light on Us as a whole within the LGBTQAI Community.
We do hope this year you’ll consider meeting Us in Manhattan tomorrow to march with Our signs, behind the Brooklyn Community Pride Center banner.
If not my hope in writing this article is to get you all to thinking about your own Bi Invisibility and how it hurts/helps your life & others who are still hiding in the shadows of stigma and societal perceptions.
I know my life is hurt because I am invisible and the girl of my dreams can’t see me…
Therefore I march for Our visibility.
-Jay Dee, Founder, LivingBi/BiWifeLife