Full Circle

When I first sat down and Google’d bisexual married woman/women and I got all these porn results I was stuck.

I couldn’t believe there weren’t like organization websites or something of that nature that was specifically for bisexual married women. I kept searching, used the keywords every which way you could flip and mix em and all I found were a few blog posts, thoughts spilled online by other suffering women.

No supportive websites or organizations.

My husband and I registered on Bisexual.com when we first decided to move ahead with finding others to bring into our marriage. It was a joke and a waste of time.

We went on all these other sites that were just plain gross and not a good experience.

I resorted to local Craigslist and I met a few women.Some didn’t fit, some were intimidating, others were plain scary.

I couldn’t find a group besides NYBAN’s BiRequest here in my city and I found that there weren’t many married bisexual women there.

I felt alone.

I felt like maybe I was an alien or some sexual freak.

I knew otherwise though.

I knew there were bisexual women just like me out there.

Bisexual, married women.

Married to a man or a woman, but married. Honest, real, maybe struggling with some feelings and looking for a place to belong.

I knew there were husband’s out there that just couldn’t understand & husband’s who did understand and stood by their BiWife.

I know this is more than a sexual itch.

This is me, in the deepest sense.

I love my husband. I also love women. I can’t change that, no matter what.

I knew I couldn’t be alone.

I can say since our inception I’ve read countless posts with so many varying situations. I didn’t know what to say to some posts and it was readers, husband’s like my own, wives like myself who offered up support. I had no idea what to do with this blog, which direction to take it and it was so confused sometimes when I first started out.

I have cried over and over again as I logged in and read comments awaiting moderation.

Tears of joy, tears of empathy, confusion and frustration.

Ours is a delicate topic with the balance of our marriages, families and life as we know it all on the line.

Some situations really make me sad, others make me so happy to hear.

In the end I can say this blog has come full circle.

In recent weeks there have been posts coming across these pages that make my heart smile.

Marriages all over have been benefiting from my words, your words, Our words.

Husbands who can now understand their biwife’s feelings, thoughts and emotions. Wives that can finally open up with a resource behind them to show their husbands as they explain how they feel.

Through these pages some marriages have become more open to communication and the list of positives go on.

Not every talk goes well, but the thing is, husbands and wives are talking about it now!

There is a place to reference the facts of this life of ours.

I love love.

I love the idea of being married for 50 years until death claims one and the other dies of heart ache within hours or days.

I guess I’m a little girl at heart. The same little girl that fantasized about princes and princesses….both coming to rescue me and dance in the woods to the tune of the three of us forever.

I know I’m not the only one who had these dreams. I now know for sure.

I know because I’ve read your words, the words of your husbands, and I’ve witnessed souls bared as my own within these pages.

Seems we’ve come full circle.

The goal has been achieved.

I KNOW WITHOUT A DOUBT marriages have been helped, saved & renewed through these pages.

I KNOW WITHOUT A DOUBT women have found a place to turn to each other, husbands have a place to turn to too.

We now have a place of our own that is working and serving our kind.

Again, I cry tears of joy. (I’m such a damn emotional creature!)

My deepest and sincerest thanks to all BiWives, BiWife Husband’s and BiWife Supporters for making this site possible and a true dream come true for me and so many other people out there online.

-Jay Dee, Founder


5 thoughts on “Full Circle

  1. This post so sums up my journey of trying to find any resources at all, any people to connect with. So many Google searches that ended with only finding smut that further objectifies us as bisexual women. I am so greatful to have found this safe haven. I truly feel welcome here. ❤

  2. I’ve been with my husband for 26 years. 26 years searching for like minded souls. And now I’ve found them. Jay Dee, you are a hero in the truest sense of the word. Courageous in the face of seemingly insurmountable odds, reaching out to others with no way of knowing if your voice will be heard in the void of space, and forging on regardless of set backs. Thank you.

    1. Another comment to make me cry, lol. Thank you so much Ryliedal. I’m glad you found Us. I strongly encourage you to browse, comment, connect and suggest. There’s a lot of great posts, threads and articles in these pages. I pray at least one thing on this site helps you in your marriage. God bless you on 26 years! I can only pray we live and love each other that long. God willing you will have many, many more years of marriage.
      Welcome to BiWifeLife and we’re honored to have you! 🙂
      -Jay Dee, Founder

  3. I did a search of “bisexual” on Twitter, hoping to maybe find some kind of support group on there. All I saw was very nasty accounts of people being perverted. I’ve been married to a man for 21 years, and just came out as bi this year. There really isn’t much support out there. The straight & gay communities both reject us.

    1. Totally agree. I’m hoping to find a volunteer webmaster that can really give us a good online presence where no matter how you search the word you’ll find this supportive community. I’m glad you found Us! I strongly encourage you to browse, comment, connect, suggest. There’s some great posts in archives and very interesting threads. Thanks for visiting and I hope we offer the support you’re looking for!
      -Jay Dee, Founder


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