When I first met my husband he spoiled me rotten.
He played the big baller role taking me to some of NY’s hottest spots, running tabs for expensive service and having the time of our lives.
I personally do not date broke men. I did that already. I ended up supporting one man for 2 years, another for 18 months and one man for almost 4/5 years on and off.
I will not date a man who cannot provide for me the way I provide for myself or better.
My husband’s professional salary is very decent and whether I work or don’t our home does not depend on it.
That being said, when I’m broke, I’m broke. When work doesn’t come, it just doesn’t come.
I work for myself and I do have dry spells from time to time.
When I think of dating a female I think of myself in the traditional masculine capacity.
Buying her flowers, taking her for a romantic stroll, dinner wherever she wants, drinks, a cab home.
In all honesty that’s not possible all the time.
I’ll never forget the night my husband, then boyfriend, told his son (who met us after an expensive date in Manhattan’s Meat Packing District) he couldn’t stop at a restaurant in my neighborhood because he was broke. They had to wait to get home to have hot dogs.
If I fell in love before then, I fell ten times more that moment.
His honesty was so real and raw.
In that moment I knew I’d be with him if he had money or not.
He tried to impress me and when the money ran out he was so honest about it.
Most women would have run away.
Hot dogs? That’s dinner because he’s broke? Oh hell no! lol
Seems women feel that way about women as well.
Work has been scarce, when money does come in I can’t afford dates, we have a family!
I’ve learned, nobody wants to date a broke person.
A few potentially awesome LTR’s have fizzled before they could truly spark because I’m just not
into spending money outside my home on things that aren’t for the betterment of myself or family.
We’re on a mission to succeed and we can’t spend money frivolously