October 11th is National Coming Out Day!!! 🙂 ….:(?
If there’s one trend I’ve noticed here on BiWifeLife is that a lot of people are comfortable being secretly bisexual.
Some bisexual married women work hard so nobody will find out, find creative ways to hide, disguise or avoid their bisexuality.
Other bisexuals are really comfortably closeted and know how to live the straight lie.
There are other bisexual married women like myself who don’t care who knows and who doesn’t.
For many on this site, their spouses don’t know they are bisexual, their family and friends don’t know. There are few on here so far who are out loud and proud about their bisexuality.
That’s why I created this site. For support in living in Our own skin.
Are you really comfortable living with secret desires, feelings and thoughts?
On the flip side.
Why should you ‘come out’ in the first place? Does your sex life have to be announced to the world? Who’s business is it who you sleep with?
It’s your spouses business at least!!!
If you’re married and he doesn’t know your sexual orientation I believe that is unfair. Your spouse should know you like your best friend knows you. No secrets, no hiding things. That’s just MY perception.
I am not insensitive to the many cultures where bisexuality or any form of homosexuality is punished as a serious crime against nature. I STRONGLY URGE anyone who lives in such a culture to consider your safety and well being before considering coming out to anyone.
For those of us who do not live in such cultures you may have MANY REASONS to hide your sexuality.
Coming out could hurt your marriage, family and social life. Maybe hiding is better for you socially and professionally, for your children’s sake, out of consideration for your spouses professional or social life.
Maybe being anything other than straight is purely unacceptable in your family, religious congregation or community.
That’s totally understandable and COMING OUT IS TOTALLY UP TO YOU, IT’S YOUR DECISION TO WEIGH CAREFULLY.
Love Yourself!!! is an awesome saying and and great movement/project. Check it out. It may help you a bit.
-Jay Dee, Founder