My fiancé and I have been dealing with some insecurities in accepting my bisexuality.
We both decided to become more comfortable with each other and our upcoming new marriage before even thinking about involving anyone else, and I am perfectly fine with that.
There are some days, though, when it comes up in conversation. It usually begins innocently enough; he asks me if I think a particular lady is attractive, and I answer truthfully. If I admit she is attractive, he gets into a funny mood and retreats to his cell phone without acknowledging me, and it usually takes a few hours of silence and sulking to bring him back.
Also, it doesn’t help that I have been getting approached by ladies a lot more lately.
Maybe it’s my new bi flag bracelet for pride month, or maybe I am different because I am more secure in myself and my sexuality. Who knows?
I can’t say it isn’t flattering (where were these hot ladies when I was single?), but I quickly explain my situation to them because I respect my decisions and relationship with my fiancé. I certainly wouldn’t want to lead anyone on when I am not ready to truthfully and honestly pursue a relationship.
So for now I am taking this one step at a time.
I don’t have all the answers, and I don’t know what may happen tomorrow. But I don’t regret my decision to be honest in who I really am. And I am working hard to make sure my fiancé knows he is my first priority, and he has nothing to worry about.
-Stephanie Elise, Contributing Author