Pride Month…is it for bisexuals?

So, here we are again, the month of June. Not only did I celebrate  my son’s birthday today, father’s day next week and my husband’s birthday toward the end of the month but the month of June is dear to me for other reasons.

It’s Pride month!

In New York countless tourists fly in from around the world during the month of June for Pride events. Pride events range from parties and galas to fundraisers, benefit balls and 5k runs, parties in the streets and on The Piers.

Our annual Pride Parade according to over 1 million people attend the New York City Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgendered March; over 350,000 people attend Pridefest; and a total of 15,000 people attend Rapture on the River and the Dance on the Pier.

English: Annual New York City LGBT Pride parad...
English: Annual New York City LGBT Pride parade, June 2007 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Pridefest, Rapture on The River and Dance on The Pier are events some people spend all year preparing for. It’s a LGBT holiday month!

We are not gay, we are not lesbian, we are not transgender, we are bisexual. We are the B in LGBT but it seems we are an afterthought in the LGBT community in many circles.

Although in recent years we have gotten more exposure we still aren’t easily identifiable, we don’t act a certain way, look any different than heterosexual and people-some of us are even in “hetero” appearing relationships.

We “pass” in society without a second glance, we don’t struggle like our brothers and sisters in the community…right? We don’t even have to participate or acknowledge Pride month, right?

Many bisexuals aren’t immersed in the LGBT community because we can lead “straight” lives and continue on undetected through life. We never have to come out if we don’t want to. We don’t have to march behind banners declaring our independence, we don’t have to wave flags, wear rainbows and tell the world we’re awesome because we’re strong and fierce!

English: A man with a rainbow flag at the Gay ...
English: A man with a rainbow flag at the Gay Pride parade in New York City, 2008. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We can keep sleeping with our best friend, neighbor, roommate, co-worker, secret lover without having to tell the world. We can keep up our hetero lives without ever disclosing our true self to the world by waving rainbows in June.

But is that true? Is the fight ‘theirs’ not ‘ours’?

I tend to think not…

I marched every parade when I was a baby and every parade I could on my own. I went through a moral/spiritual struggle within myself and haven’t marched in many years. I don’t necessarily agree with some of the costumes & behavior of some people at some of the events and at the parade which was a deciding factor in not attending for as long as I have.

When I first started attending I was passionate and serious about ‘the movement’. This parade has always meant solidarity, strength and standing tall despite the odds to me.

When I learned the story of Stonewall I literally cried for my ancestors who did have to hide and fight for the right just live peacefully among the rest of the city. I was a child living in a world that hated who I knew I was and it was my fight too.

It was my generation(90’s baby’s) that carried the post 80’s  torch of the “Silence=Death“campaign (the HIV/AIDS awareness movement) the public safety outreach keeping our streets safe (Who’s streets? OUR streets! was our war cry, lol), LGBT Youth joined forces, and even the issue of LGBT homelessness and prostitution was being addressed.

The pioneers built the foundation and our generation was bold enough to continue the fight. “Out Loud & Proud” generation was mine. We wore our flags, our triangles, our lavender, rainbows and we wore them despite what the world thought of us, the danger we put ourselves in and the ridicule we got from strangers.


My generation and the generations before mine, our voices, our footsteps, volunteer hours, outreach, campaigning, marching, organizing & recruiting efforts all played a part in where we are today.


Although I haven’t marched since probably 2001 this month still holds a dear place in my heart.

Many of us have died for the freedoms we have today. Google 80’s & 90’s and Gay Bashing in NYC. It was horrible. We were terrorized and we didn’t back down.

We earned the freedom we have today to live out loud. You can label yourself gay, straight, bi, trans, pan, metro, whatever orientation you choose today, and declare that out loud.

interracial gay couple

My husband and I are marching this year behind the BiRequest banner.

I’m doing it for my husband, so he can see what the LGBT community is about on the inside, why the community is so dear to me and why a part of me will always be a part of this community.

We are still in the first 5 years so we’re sharing and exploring a lot with each other. This is something I think he needs to experience and he’s all for it. 🙂

BiRequest Pride Banner


Hopefully I’ll meet “Her” during my husband’s tour of Pride month NYC. That would be nice…

Although I don’t wear LGBT gear anymore I may throw on a rainbow ring or bi pride necklace from time to time still and hubby understands.


bi necklace

Those are some of the many reasons why Pride month means a lot to me, and should to you too. It IS LGBT Pride month. The B  for Bisexual is included. 😉

-Jay Dee, Founder


6 thoughts on “Pride Month…is it for bisexuals?

  1. I like everything you wrote,you are right about certain things but my problem is that gays and lesbians fight for rights but yet discriminate against people in their on community they dnt see the B in Lgbt and that makes me said we the bisexual community take alot from gay lesbians, and straight people we get judged for our sexual orientation and it’s not fair. Am a open bisexual women and by open I mean my whole family knows I wear my colors and I dnt hide myself for anyone, am grateful my hubby understands and accepts me for me he has gone to pride with me before and we both had a Great time…

    1. I’m glad you are as strong about being who you are and you are so on point about the discrimination! Omg it’s so not fair gay people have so much to say about bisexuals and so do straight people and it’s rarely “Oh, good for you you know who you are!” Kudos to you for being Out Loud & Proud! It takes a lot to accept yourself for who you are and be proud of it despite other’s perception or judgments. My husband and I are also volunteering for several Pride events this year, it’s his first time & he’s looking forward to it. We are blessed to have understanding & supportive husbands! I hope many more wives like us can come together here, on FB and at actual events & groups. Glad to have you here so early in our building stages. Hope to hear lots more from you. Feel free to post your story, experiences, thoughts, on our FB or here. -Jay Dee

  2. I don’t think the fight is yet over for bisexuals; there’s still a lot of stigma surrounding them, like the associations of promiscuity.


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